Dating special needs kids
But when you come home to SN kids, there’s rarely a moment of peace until it’s time for bed—if you're lucky.Children with special emotional needs often don’t learn self-sufficiency skills the way other children do.), disrupted parent-child relationships, reduced parenting efficacy, and increased levels of parent stress. According to the National Mental Health Association and the Federation of Families for Children’s Mental Health (1993), parents who are caring for children with mental illness find it extremely difficult to get their own mental health needs met while trying to meet the mental health needs of their child.My knowledge and understanding of what it's like to parent a SN was previously restricted to textbooks, journal articles, and ultimately working with these parents as their therapist.In other words, I try not to treat my kids like my clients!The problem, however, is that my six-year old son has pronounced special emotional needs and the roller-coaster ride that is each day at home practically begs for a psychological intervention.With SN children, however, they often require that you teach—and reteach and reteach—some of the same lessons until the children learn. In this way, the parent’s experience leads to a sort of crisis of faith: Are my efforts making a difference? Elgar and colleagues (2004) found that being the mother of a child with mental illness is associated with high levels of distress and depression.
We were told that he had no behavioral problems or significant mental health symptoms.
I'm referring to the parents of children with severe cases of depression or other mood disorders, ADHD, psychosis, autism, and other emotional and/or cognitive disorders.
Previous research has not done enough to educate us about the effects on parents of having a child with SN.
A little background: My son was two years old when he was taken away from his mother, and the last day he was in her care, she broke his arm while high on methamphetamine.
For the next year or so, he lived in a foster home until he found the last stop on the train: adoption by my partner and me two years ago.
Quickly we began to see that my son had almost no ability to self-regulate; he experienced major mood shifts with extreme anger outbursts; and he got in trouble frequently at school due to his provoking other students and his inability to focus. Part one of this article will break down the negative effects, and part two will highlight the positives. Parents of SN kids will inevitably resent their child at some point.