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The fear of abandonment is great enough that they will start acting out and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, as such behavior usually hurts those close to them or drives important people in their lives away.
Googling the subject, I suddenly find the internet is awash with people who have an incredibly negative and distorted view about what it’s like to date a person with BPD.Having such strong emotions make people with BPD incredibly empathetic, and because of this we find it easy to connect with people on an emotional level quickly.The feeling is so wonderful that when they’re gone (albeit maybe only to work for the day), you hit the floor like a rock and back comes that creeping emptiness.Abandonment and loss are major fears of someone with this disorder.If he/she senses that you are going to break off the relationship, they may go into survival mode and start searching for other partners in advance or cheat.
This is because they tend to be extremely hard on themselves due to often having terrible and invalidating childhoods which have led them to harbor feelings of shame and guilt which they must shield themselves from. The person with BPD will - at least for a short period - lose sight of anything positive which you have contributed to the relationship and see you as bad.